This is from 2013
Last summer, when I went back to the mainland to visit, a friend of mine sent me a link to a craigslist ad for professional cuddlers. Her caption was, "a perfect job for you." I did a little research and this guy had what seemed a legitimate business and there was a real "need" for this. I did call and we decided that I lived too far away to be there (with no car). It was probably my saving grace!
Recently, I had a discussion about this with a friend. I mentioned to him that I had seen an ad post on Facebook about a woman who made $70,000 a year being a "professional cuddler". While at first I thought this was a great idea, after talking with my friend, I realized that it really isn't. I have nothing against people making money however, I don't agree with people charging for info/services for things that should be free...ie: spiritual information that we all need, and Love. I understand there is a HUGE need for Love right now. I also understand, per my experience, that many people are still looking outside of themselves for the Love that they need that is with them all the time... they have just not learned how to go within to find it.
I could see how charging for this kind of thing could get "sticky". There are so many guidelines or "rules" that one would need to implement to assure the safety and protection of the individuals doing the cuddling from truly needy people who are the only ones that would use this service because they are not getting the Love they need from themselves or the people around them. Most of them are men and it's not a wonder because I think this shift to a feminine vibration we are going through is difficult for them to say the least. It's easier(for the most part) for us women because of our feminine nature but for a man who has been led by his male side and not really come into contact with his female side, I can only imagine how painful and difficult this process could be for them. It may be that a service like this is helpful to the people who need it but I could see how problems could be created from this also. When you pay for something it creates expectations of having things a certain way. We want things our way because, heh, we're paying for it right? Either that or we are told how things are going to be (rules).
First of all, rules are made to be broken, yes? I find that when we have complete freedom to do anything, our egos are far less likely to commit the acts that we would make rules against. When we make rules, it's a restriction of freedom and it brings out the rebel in us. We are more likely to commit the acts that we have made rules against to push against the lack of freedom that has been created by implementation of "rules". Of course, there are those people who blindly follow rules and don't even think of going against them.
Second of all, I highly doubt that anyone doing the cuddling is doing so from a place of Love because there is money involved. It's the same for prostitutes... how many of these women (or men) are really in their hearts while they are in the act? Very few, if any because they're all in it for the money, that's it. They don't care that the people coming to them are in need of Love. Let's face it, you can have love without sex and you can certainly have sex without Love. As I have grown older, I have witnessed my own evolution into Love. I've had lots of sex without love, thinking that I was being loved because a man was willing to have sex with me; not respecting my body or my true need for Love. These guys didn't love me! They just wanted to get laid! LOL! Now, Love is more about connection. It's about connecting with my own heart and then connecting with someone else who has found their own heart also.
But I'm talking about selling cuddles here... where is the love in that? From my perspective, when people sell something, it's because they want to money for something else. Rarely, in my experience of people, do they truly want to provide a service or product for people just to provide the service/product. The ulterior motive is ALWAYS money. I'm really tired of that attitude. I live mostly without money and have for the most part of five years. I can't say I don't understand it though; I do. In the past, I've had that attitude also. So I'm not condemning the people who have this attitude because I understand where it comes from, however, we are long overdue for a change to it! This latest fad with charging for cuddling has me concerned though... maybe it's a necessary component of the need for change that I'm talking about but I think it's a travesty that we have come to this! How come the people who would use this service would even need it? Well, I can think of many reasons why but that's not what is important. It boils down to this: they are not getting the Love they need. Charging for hugs/cuddling just adds another avenue to encourage people to look outside of themselves for what they need.
I could see how in starting out in this business that someone may have a true desire to share the Love that they have with others but in my experience, it's not likely as MOST people have not found that Love within themselves to share it in the first place. And if they have, they would know better than to do something like this. They would realize that everyone deserves Love and it should be FREE! How do I know this? Because I thought about doing this. When I thought about lying there spooning or cuddling with someone I didn't know, (for half an hour) it made me feel uneasy. I couldn't imagine doing this without feeling like it wasn't right. When I did some honest reflection on this, I realized that even though at the time I thought this would be a good idea, I would only be doing it for the money and that goes against my integrity. I decided a looong time ago that I didn't want to do anything for just the money anymore. I wanted to follow my passions and let them guide me to my prosperity! This was over a year ago and I had not gotten to the time yet when my heart would be activated by a man that I fell into Love with and because I did not attach this Love to him; I knew it was me being activated by the genuine Love that I received, I stayed in Love when he left. It was after this activation that I received that we had our conversation and I got a deeper understanding of why this doesn't feel right to me. I say it like that because I'm not saying that it's "wrong" to charge money for cuddling but I do feel it's necessary to express my opinion about it because I don't agree with it and to give another perspective. People need to do what they are called to do whether it's for money or otherwise. However, choices made from fear will incur the lesson. I can't say where this woman that the article was written about made her choice from but I'm willing to bet that if it was from fear that she will get some hard lessons about it. It's all a learning curve, isn't it? LMAO! I joke about it because really, it's not that serious... or is it?
Recently, I had a discussion about this with a friend. I mentioned to him that I had seen an ad post on Facebook about a woman who made $70,000 a year being a "professional cuddler". While at first I thought this was a great idea, after talking with my friend, I realized that it really isn't. I have nothing against people making money however, I don't agree with people charging for info/services for things that should be free...ie: spiritual information that we all need, and Love. I understand there is a HUGE need for Love right now. I also understand, per my experience, that many people are still looking outside of themselves for the Love that they need that is with them all the time... they have just not learned how to go within to find it.
I could see how charging for this kind of thing could get "sticky". There are so many guidelines or "rules" that one would need to implement to assure the safety and protection of the individuals doing the cuddling from truly needy people who are the only ones that would use this service because they are not getting the Love they need from themselves or the people around them. Most of them are men and it's not a wonder because I think this shift to a feminine vibration we are going through is difficult for them to say the least. It's easier(for the most part) for us women because of our feminine nature but for a man who has been led by his male side and not really come into contact with his female side, I can only imagine how painful and difficult this process could be for them. It may be that a service like this is helpful to the people who need it but I could see how problems could be created from this also. When you pay for something it creates expectations of having things a certain way. We want things our way because, heh, we're paying for it right? Either that or we are told how things are going to be (rules).
First of all, rules are made to be broken, yes? I find that when we have complete freedom to do anything, our egos are far less likely to commit the acts that we would make rules against. When we make rules, it's a restriction of freedom and it brings out the rebel in us. We are more likely to commit the acts that we have made rules against to push against the lack of freedom that has been created by implementation of "rules". Of course, there are those people who blindly follow rules and don't even think of going against them.
Second of all, I highly doubt that anyone doing the cuddling is doing so from a place of Love because there is money involved. It's the same for prostitutes... how many of these women (or men) are really in their hearts while they are in the act? Very few, if any because they're all in it for the money, that's it. They don't care that the people coming to them are in need of Love. Let's face it, you can have love without sex and you can certainly have sex without Love. As I have grown older, I have witnessed my own evolution into Love. I've had lots of sex without love, thinking that I was being loved because a man was willing to have sex with me; not respecting my body or my true need for Love. These guys didn't love me! They just wanted to get laid! LOL! Now, Love is more about connection. It's about connecting with my own heart and then connecting with someone else who has found their own heart also.
But I'm talking about selling cuddles here... where is the love in that? From my perspective, when people sell something, it's because they want to money for something else. Rarely, in my experience of people, do they truly want to provide a service or product for people just to provide the service/product. The ulterior motive is ALWAYS money. I'm really tired of that attitude. I live mostly without money and have for the most part of five years. I can't say I don't understand it though; I do. In the past, I've had that attitude also. So I'm not condemning the people who have this attitude because I understand where it comes from, however, we are long overdue for a change to it! This latest fad with charging for cuddling has me concerned though... maybe it's a necessary component of the need for change that I'm talking about but I think it's a travesty that we have come to this! How come the people who would use this service would even need it? Well, I can think of many reasons why but that's not what is important. It boils down to this: they are not getting the Love they need. Charging for hugs/cuddling just adds another avenue to encourage people to look outside of themselves for what they need.
I could see how in starting out in this business that someone may have a true desire to share the Love that they have with others but in my experience, it's not likely as MOST people have not found that Love within themselves to share it in the first place. And if they have, they would know better than to do something like this. They would realize that everyone deserves Love and it should be FREE! How do I know this? Because I thought about doing this. When I thought about lying there spooning or cuddling with someone I didn't know, (for half an hour) it made me feel uneasy. I couldn't imagine doing this without feeling like it wasn't right. When I did some honest reflection on this, I realized that even though at the time I thought this would be a good idea, I would only be doing it for the money and that goes against my integrity. I decided a looong time ago that I didn't want to do anything for just the money anymore. I wanted to follow my passions and let them guide me to my prosperity! This was over a year ago and I had not gotten to the time yet when my heart would be activated by a man that I fell into Love with and because I did not attach this Love to him; I knew it was me being activated by the genuine Love that I received, I stayed in Love when he left. It was after this activation that I received that we had our conversation and I got a deeper understanding of why this doesn't feel right to me. I say it like that because I'm not saying that it's "wrong" to charge money for cuddling but I do feel it's necessary to express my opinion about it because I don't agree with it and to give another perspective. People need to do what they are called to do whether it's for money or otherwise. However, choices made from fear will incur the lesson. I can't say where this woman that the article was written about made her choice from but I'm willing to bet that if it was from fear that she will get some hard lessons about it. It's all a learning curve, isn't it? LMAO! I joke about it because really, it's not that serious... or is it?
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