An example of suffering

So I'm here on Maui, in Kihei, on World Whale Day. It's a big event here in town and it only happens once a year. I was staying not too far where the festivities were happening. I happened to run into my partner( I don't call him my "ex" anymore because, he isn't!). We got to hang out for a bit with each other before we parted ways but before that, we were walking down the street and he ran into one of his many people that he knows and she told us about free massage going on @ WWD. It piqued my interest; my body was wanting some loving and I knew I was not going to get it from where I wanted, so I kept it in mind. Later on in the day when things were winding down, I was leaving the party and I happened to walk by where they were doing the free massage so I stopped in and it worked out that they had an opening table right then so I took advantage. The woman that gave me the massage was a student, (they all were) and that's why it was free, but she was very good and spent some extra time with me doing some energy work. When I first lied down, I remember that she was at my head because her hands were on my shoulders but I distinctly felt someone either lean or sit on the end of the table where my feet were. After the massage, I gathered my things and headed out. I was half way home when I realized that I didn't have my bag with me that had my phone, my money and ebt card and some other important things. I went back to where I had been and talked with the woman who did my massage and I didn't freak out, but I was so saddened to think that someone had stolen my bag! My mind even wanted to connect dots that were there to blame it on her! I went back to the spot where I had been sitting on the grass listening to the music to see If I had dropped it or left it by mistake to no avail. I didn't think to ask anyone sitting there if they had seen anything, I was so distraught. Long story short, that night I was guided to post an ad on craigslist in the lost and found section and that night, a woman called to tell me that she had found my bag and that everything was still there and that she had given it to Greg Kaufman, the founder of WWD!. I was so ecstatic to hear the news! I did get my bag back, with everything in it, though I had to go across town to get it.

In hindsight, I realized that all my suffering had been in my head and if I had thought to ask the people around where I had been sitting, I may have gotten my bag back sooner than later. It was a lesson in acknowledging my feelings and not allowing my head to "run away" with my feelings by making up possible scenarios of what could have happened. I didn't fail in this really because I still followed my guidance and got my bag back but it was an interesting experience to reflect on.

We ALL are the cause of our own suffering and it's not necessary. But it does take effort to bring oneself into balance if one is to stop suffering.

Namaste and Aloha!

Details about my coming into balance

This is an update about my last blog. I wanted to go more into detail about what my experience entailed to give anyone who reads this the awareness of what to expect when they have their own "awakening" or "coming into balance". It has been a few months now and I have more clarity not only about how my shift happened but also how I have allowed myself to descend (again) into an abyss with the company I have kept.
 

If you have read any of my previous blogs, you'll know that most of my adult life has been spent on higher learning/consciousness. My path has led me to many many other pathways of healing and integration. All of which were perfect for me in that moment; but I never stuck with just one path. I would find something that didn't resonate or I'd find some untruth/falsity and move on to the next tool that would find me. And what I would find did not invalidate that particular path, but being a truth seeker, I was always searching for that "one path" that would serve EVERYONE and it also had to be empowering. Many times the pathways I would find were from outside of myself; even chiropractic, which was immensely helpful for my body but I came to recognize that it too was another thing outside of myself that I was using to heal myself. To boil it all down, all one needs to do is love every part of ourselves to make this shift happen. I know it seems very simple and it is and what is complicated is the route that we have all taken to get where we are within ourselves that shifted us out of balance to begin with. 

 

I was in a relationship with a man that I still love dearly and I know within my heart that is my twin flame but things weren't going well for us. We made many mis-takes with each other, especially in what we believed the other was thinking/doing. This relationship change dramatically when he decided to buy a ticket to Maui and leave the big island, where we had been living together, without telling me. It had been difficult for both of us to speak out truths to each other; coming from the heart.  Well, anyway, he left and after about a week, I filled up his voicemail with everything that I had needed to say but had fear around. During this time, I also came across a book, "Handbook to Higher Consciousness" and in there I recognized that I was living from my lower three chakras; power, pleasure and security. I knew this was something I needed to change to I went to see a couple of friends at a market and told them what I had discovered and that I wanted help shifting to my heart space. I was given help to accomplish this, (I did the "work" and they facilitated). A couple of weeks later, I went back to ask Soul why I wasn't in my heart and that I kinda felt like I was in neutral. He said that I was and that it wasn't a "bad" place to be. Yada Yada. I went back in two more weeks and asked what was going on, I still wasn't "there". He told me I needed to surrender and that when I went to bed that night, to "melt". So I did, that night, I said out loud that I gave up, that I was ready to be in my heart and to lead myself from there.
 

It took me about a week but I realized that I had made a subtle shift. It was more about what was not there more than what was there. I realized that there were no parts of me "hiding", afraid to come to the surface except in anger or any other negative emotion.  All of me was on the surface. I felt like a little kid at times because I can be very goofy and that was coming out a LOT!  It also became easier for me to speak my truth and not really care anymore what people think about me. I've always understood intellectually that it doesn't matter what other people think, that it only matters what we think about ourselves. No one can create anything for us. We create every experience on our own. It only looks like people do things to us when we don't take responsibility for the creation ourselves. I had always told myself that I didn't care what people think but now it's 100% true! I felt very joyous and the synchronicity in my life increased multi-fold! I was able to stay in this space for a good 2 months with some minor "hick-ups" or "bumps in the road".

Part of my experience was allowing myself and making it OK to just receive. I received a LOT of unconditional love from a friend who also made it OK for me. So I had a benchmark to reflect on and use as comparison for myself.

I started to feel a call to go to Maui, not really knowing why. What came to me was that there are a LOT of spiritual teachers there and maybe why that was the reason why I was feeling "called". I also knew that I really need to talk with my partner about what went down between us and to clear things up. I have been able to do that on many levels. But not all the way. I have let go of all the hurt and pain associated with this person but he has not and it's obvious to me. Residing in one's heart changes the perspective that one sees from and one only sees the truth. Looking through the ego tends to twist things so that we don't necessarily see the truth but what the ego wants to see to make it fit it's idea of what it thinks the truth is.  Big difference.  I see more of where people are truly at with themselves.  I know if they are in their heart or in their ego.  And sometimes it's a very subtle shift in energy.  Sometimes it's more obvious.  It depends on how much inner work the individual has done.

So I'm here on Maui, doing my best to let my path unfold by keeping myself in check (my ego), thanking it for doing a good job and alerting me to whatever perceived threat it sees and also reassuring it (myself) that my heart knows what it's doing and to just review the evidence of that by looking in hindsight, moving back chronologically, at all the synchronicity and coincidences that have occurred.   

 

Hind sight is always 20/20. Meaning, that it's easier to see that path that got us to where we are when you look back than when you try to look into the future. That's because we are just supposed to trust in the universe to give us what we want and our only job is to get clear on what we want. We get clear on what we want through the experience of duality(3d). The experience of contrast.  Getting what we don't want so that we can then choose what we DO want.  That's why we are here. 

 

Coming to the 3d experience(earthly living), causes our ego to separate itself from the heart. It's the difference in frequency that causes that to happen. When we are born, we are perfect and depending on how we handle our experiences growing up, determines how far we move out of alignment of our heart. Life is reflected in our choices and their are only two places to take a choice from; the head/ego (false self)/fear, and the heart, (true self), love. Every choice we take reinforces the direction it came from; love or fear. The path, viewed in hindsight, if one is honest with oneself, will always lead one to it's true source; love or fear. It's up to us to learn how to differentiate between the two and sometimes it can be very subtle. So, when you look in hindsight at any situation, you can see where each choice came from. The only mis-take we make is when we take a choice from our ego or out of fear.  A tell tale sign is having any kind of negative feeling of fear no matter how subtle.  A choice from the heart in NEVER a mis-take and the synchronicity is usually abundant if you are aware of it and know to look for it.  The problem is, is that many people are unaware that they are the ones that create their life to begin with so they are not in the habit of taking responsibility for their choices.  But let's face it, we have all been subject to programming even if only a little bit.  We have been led down a self-destructive path little by little through our indoctrination into western society.

Kinda got off on some tangents there but I was also on a roll so let me get back to my story here.
 

We always test ourselves after making big changes where we have learned lessons to see if they have "stuck". While I have been on Maui, it has just been one grand adventure. I have come to realize that I'm mostly here for my partner even though the thoughts I had surrounding seeing him again always revolved around just telling him my truth and completely disconnecting from him so that he can continue with his contrasting experiences (creating what he doesn't want).  It wasn't until I got here and I was asking for confirmation of who he is to me that I was reminded of all the synchronicity and coincidences that brought us together and that he is in my heart and I have this inexplicable draw to him, to want to help him, to empower him with the knowledge I have.  I still have told him my truth.  I told him about what I know and how I feel about him and that we are twins.  I also told him that I did not wish to be with anyone who is not in their heart space and that I would rather be alone than be with someone other than him.  He is still in his ego. He's even seeing someone else although it's interesting that he felt the need to tell me that she was just a friend and that he doesn't want to be in another relationship.  I can see where he is making his mistake and I'm not even upset that he is "sharing" with someone else. It does make me a little sad but that's it.  I told him that in the 1% chance that I may be wrong, it's ok.  I'm ok with being alone if that's the case or maybe someone new will enter my life soon.  If not, and I'm right, I can wait. I can be patient and allow him to make his mis-takes and not judge him for it because in the end, we will be together anyway.  So why am I telling you all this?  Because it is such a different experience that I am noticing, to be in my heart while going through this particular event.  I'm able to see the truth.

So part of my experience here has been a huge lesson in letting go. Letting go of people, letting go of material things and letting go of thoughts that don't serve me. That is one that I have to really be conscious about when it's about relationships. I've had some lessons about who I spend my time with also. I've been in one place for the last month and I discovered late last week that I really didn't like where I've been staying. To stay there has been slowly draining my energy; from being surrounded by electrical circuitry all the time to being in the presence of people who change who they are depending on who they are with. In other words, not being real or honest. This person has asked me early on about how I perceive him and now I struggle with telling him my latest observations because I'm not sure I should. This situation isn't just about him, there are others involved. Anyway, it's been a good lesson for me to feel when my energy is not being appreciated and how I'm being drained.

I've done really well making (most) of my decisions from my heart. I can see and feel where I have made mis-takes, I own it, I usually laugh about it and then I remind myself that even though something doesn't look as I think it should in making that choice from my heart, that as long as it feels right, I'm ok.

I think that's enough for now. Tomorrow, I leave Kihei with a new-found sister young enough to be my daughter, for Hana and then up the mountain to the desert for a while. After that, I'm not sure but my best guess right now from the signs I'm hearing, it's back to the Big Island to see my Ohana family. I have many people ready to welcome me back with open arms and does that ever feel wonderful!

Waking Up...

Just this year(2012) before I left the Big Island and came to Maui, I went through an amazing personal transformation. To be brief, my relationship had ended and after purging myself of all that I hadn't been able to say before he left, I started reading "Handbook to Higher Consciousness" and recognized that I had been living from my lower three chakras. I went to some friends at space market and told them that I wanted to be in my heart. They performed their "magic" and I was left in neutral for about a month. The second time I went back to ask what was going on; that I knew I wasn't in my heart, I was told to surrender to my higher self and that when I went to bed that night to "melt". So I did. I surrendered, out loud, telling myself that I gave up, that I give up control and that I wanted to be in my heart. The next day, I was slightly different. The only way to describe it is to say that I was still "me", but all of me was on the surface. There wasn't any part of me hiding anymore. It was about noticing what wasn't there and what was different. I began to notice subtle changes about myself. I had already done a LOT of inner work so this shift in me has stuck. I am now in a "refinement" process of my emotions. I still may get irritated or even annoyed but I own it right away and find what it is I need to accept in myself that quells the irritation or annoyance. It's all about just loving who you are with all of the things you don't like. That's all I did (really). Throughout the years, many times it looked like me going outside of myself to answers and for help. I can see now that all I or anyone else needs to do is just love what is there. Loving all the parts of ourselves that we pushed aside while we were children is what caused our pain to begin with. Accepting them back is the key to becoming whole again and makes it possible to STAY in one's heart space.
I AM the change I wish to see in the world!