05 November, 2024

The "Do over"

This is an update to the "River" situation.  About 5 weeks ago, I was aware that River was not doing well.  I thought maybe his girlfriend had broken up with him and then I saw them both on a Saturday at the park and they did NOT play together.  I was right... not long after that, River started "playing" with me.  We even played a round together and it was OK.  I knew something was up when he started texting me again; wanting to get together with me with a bottle of wine.

I let him come over; giving him the benefit of the doubt but pretty certain that he was there for one thing only.  Right again.  I took the opportunity to ask him all the questions that I had not been given the chance to ask.  I'm not sure I really got all my questions answered... he admitted to me that he has a hard time telling the truth when he's face to face with someone...๐Ÿ˜ฏ  If that's not an admission of being a liar, then I don't know what is.  He also lied that he broke up with her when I know it was the other way around.  He tried to play it as if he's all about pleasure when I know damn well that sex is a go-to for him when he needs to feel good; just like the drugs.

I told him no; several times.  He did not want to take no for an answer.  As I look back now, there are so many things I wish I would have said but I was so focused on getting what I wanted that I even brushed off his comment about not telling the truth face to face.  I wish I would have asked him why that is.  

What got him to leave is when I told him that "no" doesn't mean try harder and I didn't want him to have to apologize to me like he did the first time we ever had sex.  

I texted him after he left and told him I'd think about it and he came back with "I don't think that's a good idea".  Like wtf?!  How could he have changes his mind so quickly after just leaving.  I started to think about that and I came up with that he was only there for that night even though he framed it as we would hang out after that; have lunch etc.  

The next day (literally) he was there with her again and somehow convinced her to take him back (after he'd told me he was going to have to avoid her) and they had a "second honeymoon"๐Ÿ˜†  what a joke!

Well, I think that has come to an end again.  I only saw them briefly last Saturday but it wasn't looking too good.  

I got what I needed from him which was a "do over".  Even though I knew why he was there, I had no desire to be with him again so it wasn't hard to tell him no.  This is what I should have done 2 years ago when we met up outside the park for our first kiss etc.  I wish I would have asked him why he was there with me if he had a girlfriend.

I think he thought I was going to be an easy target given we'd already been there but I surprised him by refusing him and I did it with Love.  I didn't get mad, yell or anything else negative.  I had wanted an opportunity like this for myself... to take back my integrity with a different choice and I got it!

Now he hates me.  He can't see that I was making a choice out of love for myself.  All he could see was that he didn't get what he wanted.  I have nothing but compassion for him.  I've been in his shoes but many years ago.  I can't hold it against him.  He doesn't have the awareness of what he was doing hence... Forgive them for they know not what they do. 

21 September, 2024

Turning the Corner

Right around the middle of August, I turned a corner, meaning, something integrated or was taken away or... something.  Things that used to bug me don't bug me at all anymore or it's just a little bit.  I have way more patience when I'm driving and I just feel more balanced emotionally.  I can even lose my center, my balance, and bounce back rather quickly.  I have way more mental peace and my yoga practice is reflecting the changes of my mind in my body.  

It's been about a month now and it took me a few days to notice what had happened.  I was SO exuberant also for about 2 weeks until I had to scream at someone to leave me alone๐Ÿ˜ That killed it for me.  I had to let go of this person from my life.  She turned out to be toxic for me and an energy vampire.

I initially thought that it would be like every other time I've felt like I raised my vibration only to fall back down like I was on a roller coaster.  This time it has stuck.  It's not just my vibe but I fell a calmness and peace that I haven't had before.  It's such a relief to not have the barrage of negative thoughts about (people).  I still get perturbed but it's so slight.  Even when I do get angry or upset, it only lasts for a little while.  It's much easier to let things go.

I've even discovered through kinesiology that my body is getting younger by about 2 to 3 weeks every day!  It started back in March after my "thing" with River.  I'm hoping that my skin will be reflecting my younger age soon!