We all, at one time or another, have all chosen to be victims. I have definitely gone through it myself. It was part of the reason why I got together with my last committed relationship.
It was 2010 and I had convinced myself that the proverbial shit was going to hit the fan very soon and Trump wasn't even in office yet! 😝 I remember having a thought that I wanted to be with someone who could grow their own food as I am NOT, in the slightest, interested in farming! lol I was living in Hawai'i at the time and Monsanto was becoming a very big issue over there. I was worried about our food supply. As I think back, I think I was getting more of a warning from my Higher Self rather than a reason to commit myself to a severely traumatized individual who acted like a complete narcissist most of the time.
I realize that from an early age, I was brainwashed into thinking this way having bought into the whole "Disney" narrative that women are weak and need to be saved by a Man. You can see this theme in most of their animated movies like "Snow White", "Cinderella" and "Sleeping Beauty". This list goes on. I'm sure you could think of a few on your own.😉
Let's be real here, while it may feel romantic to be swept off your feet by a handsome Prince, how often does that REALLY happen?👎😆 It's a subtle but very powerful technique (one of many) employed by "others" that wish to dis-empower us, steal our energy and devour our soul by convincing us we are "victims who need saving". It does not matter who is behind this; only that you recognize it for what it is and that you shed that consciousness in favor of feeling empowered.
Why would you want to do that? Well, I can say from experience that it feels much better to know that I am NOT a victim, that I don't need anyone to "save" me because I learned how to do that for myself and by doing so, I reap the benefits from it like having the confidence to take bigger risks because I have stretched my comfort zone, I have a greater connection to my intuition and I lead MYSELF rather than being led by someone else.
Everything that happens to me is of my own making and taking responsibility for it actually feels better than to convince myself "it's someone else's fault". That's what the "victim" says.
When we save ourselves, we are saving ourselves from our own ego that says we can't do something or denies responsibility and points to someone else. Those "others" are really reflections of the different archetypes of our own ego that have been activated. When we are faced or confronted by these "others", we are getting an opportunity to see something within ourselves that needs our love and support to heal.
I know it seems like giving love to our ego would only exacerbate it's "bad" behavior but I can tell you, it doesn't. These parts (archetypes) of ourselves calm down and behave better by dropping the "bad behavior" because they are receiving the attention they want from OUR OWN SOURCE OF LOVE. This is the essence of Self Love... sharing our own compassion with our ego.
When we love our ego, we are not condoning our "bad behavior" we are recognizing the need being expressed to be accepted and loved for it's role in our life. I have found when I started doing this, I was not confronted as often or at all by "others" projecting their own needs onto me. I stopped seeing as much "negativity" outside of myself unless I chose to put my attention on it.
This is how the world outside of us changes in reflection to the world inside of us. As we "do our work" and express more compassion and understanding to our ego, it creates more harmony inside that is reflected outside.
I got off on a tangent there but the point is to feel better. It does not feel good to be a "victim who needs saving". This is demonstrated in subtle ways and it takes a desire to recognize this and drop it by taking responsibility for EVERYTHING in our lives. It may not seem like that would feel better but it does. Taking responsibility is different than blaming ourselves. Blame is still victimhood.
The point is to pay attention to how we feel. If thinking or doing something does not feel good then STOP! Just stop.👮
We have been programmed to discount our feelings, believe that feeling bad is somehow going to motivate us to change ourselves and look outside of ourselves for all of our answers. I call BULLSHIT on ALL of that!
Our feelings are our direct connection to our OWN SOURCE, we have a birthright to feeling GOOD and we only give ourselves the challenges that we can handle! It's time that we wake up to all the bullshit that takes our energy and dis-empowers us whether that's coming from our own ego or someone else. All that is required is a desire to do so.
If you continue to choose victim consciousness, you give your personal power away by putting the onus on "others" to "fix" your life when you are perfectly capable of making positive life changes on your own. Besides, you may not be happy with what someone else does so it makes no sense to leave what is your responsibility to someone else.
I'm not trying to shame anyone here and there is nothing (REALLY) wrong with temporarily adopting this kind of mentality. It is part of our experience of duality for how do you know if you have or feel what you want if you first (or eventually) don't have the opposite experience? This is the purpose of contrasting experiences. The trick is not to get to comfortable with it and therefore dependent on "others" to keep you happy. Only YOU can create your own happiness. It's very easy to get addicted to the attention you get from being a victim but this is it's own trap.
Most of the time we have to get the "end of our rope" with ourselves or just feel so bad that we finally "give in" or surrender and that allows us to receive the guidance from within or through others that we trust to rise to the occasion to release victim consciousness. You don't have to wait until you reach the bottom of the barrel so-to-speak. You can make a conscious choice to Rise NOW.💓😊💪
Addendum 10/29/19
I meant to give, as an example, the short version of the story of the professor that helped the butterfly out of its chrysalis. Basically, because the butterfly had gotten help (from the outside) to exit its self imposed "prison", it never learned how to fly. The struggle IS what gives us our empowerment, that stretches our comfort zone and gives us the confidence and courage to keep going.
Going through the birth canal is the first "struggle" that we encounter. I believe that we do our children a great disservice by performing cesarean births on the Mother. Just look at the root word; Cesar! Cesar was a tyrant who subjugated and victimized his population. (yes, there are certain circumstances that require cesarean birth but it is very much overused!)
The moral of the story is, by claiming the "victim" attitude and demanding that someone "save us", we are asking the professor to help us out of our chrysalis. How are we to feel empowered and learn to fly if we take this path? by negating our own struggle (the challenges we give ourselves) we give our personal power away without ever realizing it... that we even HAVE IT! lol I laugh at the irony here. Going through the struggle and coming out the other side is what helps us realize that power. This is why taking responsibility takes back our own power. Our personal power (applied) is what is needed to overcome the ego; to MASTER it.
One final note: People don't have ANY power over you unless you GIVE it to them! And REALLY, power over someone else is an illusion, an ego trip. 😉
It was 2010 and I had convinced myself that the proverbial shit was going to hit the fan very soon and Trump wasn't even in office yet! 😝 I remember having a thought that I wanted to be with someone who could grow their own food as I am NOT, in the slightest, interested in farming! lol I was living in Hawai'i at the time and Monsanto was becoming a very big issue over there. I was worried about our food supply. As I think back, I think I was getting more of a warning from my Higher Self rather than a reason to commit myself to a severely traumatized individual who acted like a complete narcissist most of the time.
I realize that from an early age, I was brainwashed into thinking this way having bought into the whole "Disney" narrative that women are weak and need to be saved by a Man. You can see this theme in most of their animated movies like "Snow White", "Cinderella" and "Sleeping Beauty". This list goes on. I'm sure you could think of a few on your own.😉
Let's be real here, while it may feel romantic to be swept off your feet by a handsome Prince, how often does that REALLY happen?👎😆 It's a subtle but very powerful technique (one of many) employed by "others" that wish to dis-empower us, steal our energy and devour our soul by convincing us we are "victims who need saving". It does not matter who is behind this; only that you recognize it for what it is and that you shed that consciousness in favor of feeling empowered.
Why would you want to do that? Well, I can say from experience that it feels much better to know that I am NOT a victim, that I don't need anyone to "save" me because I learned how to do that for myself and by doing so, I reap the benefits from it like having the confidence to take bigger risks because I have stretched my comfort zone, I have a greater connection to my intuition and I lead MYSELF rather than being led by someone else.
Everything that happens to me is of my own making and taking responsibility for it actually feels better than to convince myself "it's someone else's fault". That's what the "victim" says.
When we save ourselves, we are saving ourselves from our own ego that says we can't do something or denies responsibility and points to someone else. Those "others" are really reflections of the different archetypes of our own ego that have been activated. When we are faced or confronted by these "others", we are getting an opportunity to see something within ourselves that needs our love and support to heal.
I know it seems like giving love to our ego would only exacerbate it's "bad" behavior but I can tell you, it doesn't. These parts (archetypes) of ourselves calm down and behave better by dropping the "bad behavior" because they are receiving the attention they want from OUR OWN SOURCE OF LOVE. This is the essence of Self Love... sharing our own compassion with our ego.
When we love our ego, we are not condoning our "bad behavior" we are recognizing the need being expressed to be accepted and loved for it's role in our life. I have found when I started doing this, I was not confronted as often or at all by "others" projecting their own needs onto me. I stopped seeing as much "negativity" outside of myself unless I chose to put my attention on it.
This is how the world outside of us changes in reflection to the world inside of us. As we "do our work" and express more compassion and understanding to our ego, it creates more harmony inside that is reflected outside.
I got off on a tangent there but the point is to feel better. It does not feel good to be a "victim who needs saving". This is demonstrated in subtle ways and it takes a desire to recognize this and drop it by taking responsibility for EVERYTHING in our lives. It may not seem like that would feel better but it does. Taking responsibility is different than blaming ourselves. Blame is still victimhood.
The point is to pay attention to how we feel. If thinking or doing something does not feel good then STOP! Just stop.👮
We have been programmed to discount our feelings, believe that feeling bad is somehow going to motivate us to change ourselves and look outside of ourselves for all of our answers. I call BULLSHIT on ALL of that!
Our feelings are our direct connection to our OWN SOURCE, we have a birthright to feeling GOOD and we only give ourselves the challenges that we can handle! It's time that we wake up to all the bullshit that takes our energy and dis-empowers us whether that's coming from our own ego or someone else. All that is required is a desire to do so.
If you continue to choose victim consciousness, you give your personal power away by putting the onus on "others" to "fix" your life when you are perfectly capable of making positive life changes on your own. Besides, you may not be happy with what someone else does so it makes no sense to leave what is your responsibility to someone else.
I'm not trying to shame anyone here and there is nothing (REALLY) wrong with temporarily adopting this kind of mentality. It is part of our experience of duality for how do you know if you have or feel what you want if you first (or eventually) don't have the opposite experience? This is the purpose of contrasting experiences. The trick is not to get to comfortable with it and therefore dependent on "others" to keep you happy. Only YOU can create your own happiness. It's very easy to get addicted to the attention you get from being a victim but this is it's own trap.
Most of the time we have to get the "end of our rope" with ourselves or just feel so bad that we finally "give in" or surrender and that allows us to receive the guidance from within or through others that we trust to rise to the occasion to release victim consciousness. You don't have to wait until you reach the bottom of the barrel so-to-speak. You can make a conscious choice to Rise NOW.💓😊💪
Addendum 10/29/19
I meant to give, as an example, the short version of the story of the professor that helped the butterfly out of its chrysalis. Basically, because the butterfly had gotten help (from the outside) to exit its self imposed "prison", it never learned how to fly. The struggle IS what gives us our empowerment, that stretches our comfort zone and gives us the confidence and courage to keep going.
Going through the birth canal is the first "struggle" that we encounter. I believe that we do our children a great disservice by performing cesarean births on the Mother. Just look at the root word; Cesar! Cesar was a tyrant who subjugated and victimized his population. (yes, there are certain circumstances that require cesarean birth but it is very much overused!)
The moral of the story is, by claiming the "victim" attitude and demanding that someone "save us", we are asking the professor to help us out of our chrysalis. How are we to feel empowered and learn to fly if we take this path? by negating our own struggle (the challenges we give ourselves) we give our personal power away without ever realizing it... that we even HAVE IT! lol I laugh at the irony here. Going through the struggle and coming out the other side is what helps us realize that power. This is why taking responsibility takes back our own power. Our personal power (applied) is what is needed to overcome the ego; to MASTER it.
One final note: People don't have ANY power over you unless you GIVE it to them! And REALLY, power over someone else is an illusion, an ego trip. 😉
